"Social Media Distorted Dating Or Sexting Distorted Social Media?"

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It’s the new age where the standard has become that we see them naked digitally before they grace our bedroom bare. Crazy enough to think that folks feel ownership over a person they’ve never met before because nudes were exchanged. Yeah, I get it. She promised the nastiest and you followed up with the same dream selling fibs. But what happen to the art of anticipation and mystery? 

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Catfishing happened. So now you’re plagued with “what ifs” and “just in case” pressure. Nightmares become reality when you mesh social media and dating. Sexting became an art to some. Nudes are almost a must have in this day in age. The competitiveness to be on a higher level of nasty became a sought after title. I took time out to question a couple ladies on how the pressures of knowing someone solely from social media and then proceeding forward into dating has altered their dating life…. 

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Question: Sexting & nude pics: Are these the standards for this generations pre-game? Do ppl still date, have sex with skipping the whole nude pic exchange? Have you ever engaged in nude pics and sexting? Your take on it?

Lady #1 : Social media makes sexting and nudes a somewhat “standard” and I also think the subsequent leaks that happen so often may also lead to apprehension to share. But yes, people still date and don’t exchange nudes. Meeting someone while out and about, or that isn’t big on phones or texting at all and time is spent being together in person and it may never come up. I have engaged in it. It’s not something I do often, or with just anyone, but yes.

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Lady #2 : It’s a standard for me. I need mental stimulation that promises physical before I actually get physical. And that’s usually his meat in my inbox. Even if he’s shirtless I just want that, need that if you will. I enjoy meeting people in bars. But I haven’t been with someone and not exchanged nudes in over 6 years. My collection has made me become sort of a pervert for it. 

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Question: Folks tend to create a new identity or live within an alter ego on social media. Do you think this is an extreme form of role playing for them? Is this considered kinky or just an alter ego place ppl go to because they’re not comfortable with themselves?

Lady #1 : Neither? I guess whether or not it’s considered kinky has to do with how deep you delve or the roles you pick, but I see it as just a way to spice things up. I’m not bringing out costumes and a script, but it’s fun to play with the dynamic between you and your partner. Sure, why not.

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Lady #2 : I’m not with it if he isn’t into role playing. I spend hours on twitter picking and choosing who I think even has what it takes to handle my sexual prowess. My alter ego is an intense dominant sexual deviant. Maybe I’m my own worst enemy because I get bored easily. I’m kinky for what the medium crowd but I personally think this it’s the standard. My latest encounter had me in a random bar stalking him from a far. I was empowered to try this by watching the HBO series “Girls” this past season. 

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If I had to draw a conclusion to the question of what has corrupted what, I’d say social media aided the new standard for what sexting can lead to. No one idea is the captain. Some people need the build up of pictures and texts to create a head space for whats about to happen. While others casually take to social media to silently watch and interact with their next lay from a good distance. 

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'Good Kid Mad City'

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Sports Illustrated broke the story that Lebron was indeed ‘coming home’ and the reactions from fans, players, admirers, haters and etc rolled out in drones. Miami left in questions and disarray. Cleveland welcoming a chance at playing late in May once again. The decision to go to Miami in 2010 was a desperate mans decision. Indeed it did pan out for the Miami big 3 and fan base. As the finals appearances became a norm the pompous attitude and villainous demeanor of the Miami Heat grew across the region.

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To know Lebron is to know he’s not this generations Villain.  He doesn’t even know how to be an asshole the right way. Those traits are owned by Kobe, Wade and KG. He’s the good kid who saw it fit to get help in his life long efforts to gain a NBA championship. Leaving Cleveland in the dust with nothing but memories and torched number 23 jerseys, I’m almost sure it ate him alive in the few moments of failure in South Beach.

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After watching LJ shoulder the load of the NBA final runs, we as fans all started looking around and wondering, “What’s the difference between Lebron now and Lebron then?” Mulling over the question I simply answered it. Maturity. Ownership of self and those around. A man makes mistakes but only sleeps peacefully at night knowing he tried to right his wrongs. 

A return to the Cavs was indeed inevitable. The cities son of Akron, Ohio was destined to be. Miami should be forever thankful that he even chose to go there in the first place. Who knows what awaits in Cleveland. But as far goes as the NBA, the parity feels restored. 

'GROWTH IN REFLECTION'
The strength of 10 thousand men doesn’t even hold a candle to a child’s belief in what they do not know can or can’t happen. My blind faith in certain things, is somewhat childlike for the very fact that I try not to replace the kid that exist in me. 
I was dazing out at work a few weeks back, somewhat grumbling over how I was lacking in materialistic areas of my life and just like good timing, this picture above crossed my dashboard. Far removed from this situation the visual hit home like that was my family laying there helpless. Left with only blind faith. 
Mad questions scurried through my mind… “How long has this child been standing there?”  ”A week from now will both of em just end up as a statistic?” 
Above all, how is this child operating with this much courage and care in this dire situation? Reminiscing back on my life to date, I been in the depths of fight or flight. Eat or starve. You or me. My family or my freedom…
This visual right here takes me back to those very moments. In no way do I compare what I been through to this, but just the very glimpse is a testament to children in the big scheme of things. Their heart is pure and they no nothing but life and survival until they’re taught different. 
The harshest reality is that this exist. The dreamers beautiful dream would be that this didn’t. And for the rest of us, we just hold tight to what we cherish and remember that tonight this isn’t our day in and day out fight… 

'GROWTH IN REFLECTION'

The strength of 10 thousand men doesn’t even hold a candle to a child’s belief in what they do not know can or can’t happen. My blind faith in certain things, is somewhat childlike for the very fact that I try not to replace the kid that exist in me. 

I was dazing out at work a few weeks back, somewhat grumbling over how I was lacking in materialistic areas of my life and just like good timing, this picture above crossed my dashboard. Far removed from this situation the visual hit home like that was my family laying there helpless. Left with only blind faith. 

Mad questions scurried through my mind… “How long has this child been standing there?”  ”A week from now will both of em just end up as a statistic?” 

Above all, how is this child operating with this much courage and care in this dire situation? Reminiscing back on my life to date, I been in the depths of fight or flight. Eat or starve. You or me. My family or my freedom…

This visual right here takes me back to those very moments. In no way do I compare what I been through to this, but just the very glimpse is a testament to children in the big scheme of things. Their heart is pure and they no nothing but life and survival until they’re taught different. 

The harshest reality is that this exist. The dreamers beautiful dream would be that this didn’t. And for the rest of us, we just hold tight to what we cherish and remember that tonight this isn’t our day in and day out fight…