"Social Media Distorted Dating Or Sexting Distorted Social Media?"
It’s the new age where the standard has become that we see them naked digitally before they grace our bedroom bare. Crazy enough to think that folks feel ownership over a person they’ve never met before because nudes were exchanged. Yeah, I get it. She promised the nastiest and you followed up with the same dream selling fibs. But what happen to the art of anticipation and mystery?
Catfishing happened. So now you’re plagued with “what ifs” and “just in case” pressure. Nightmares become reality when you mesh social media and dating. Sexting became an art to some. Nudes are almost a must have in this day in age. The competitiveness to be on a higher level of nasty became a sought after title. I took time out to question a couple ladies on how the pressures of knowing someone solely from social media and then proceeding forward into dating has altered their dating life….
Question: Sexting & nude pics: Are these the standards for this generations pre-game? Do ppl still date, have sex with skipping the whole nude pic exchange? Have you ever engaged in nude pics and sexting? Your take on it?
Lady #1 : Social media makes sexting and nudes a somewhat “standard” and I also think the subsequent leaks that happen so often may also lead to apprehension to share. But yes, people still date and don’t exchange nudes. Meeting someone while out and about, or that isn’t big on phones or texting at all and time is spent being together in person and it may never come up. I have engaged in it. It’s not something I do often, or with just anyone, but yes.
Lady #2 : It’s a standard for me. I need mental stimulation that promises physical before I actually get physical. And that’s usually his meat in my inbox. Even if he’s shirtless I just want that, need that if you will. I enjoy meeting people in bars. But I haven’t been with someone and not exchanged nudes in over 6 years. My collection has made me become sort of a pervert for it.
Question: Folks tend to create a new identity or live within an alter ego on social media. Do you think this is an extreme form of role playing for them? Is this considered kinky or just an alter ego place ppl go to because they’re not comfortable with themselves?
Lady #1 : Neither? I guess whether or not it’s considered kinky has to do with how deep you delve or the roles you pick, but I see it as just a way to spice things up. I’m not bringing out costumes and a script, but it’s fun to play with the dynamic between you and your partner. Sure, why not.
Lady #2 : I’m not with it if he isn’t into role playing. I spend hours on twitter picking and choosing who I think even has what it takes to handle my sexual prowess. My alter ego is an intense dominant sexual deviant. Maybe I’m my own worst enemy because I get bored easily. I’m kinky for what the medium crowd but I personally think this it’s the standard. My latest encounter had me in a random bar stalking him from a far. I was empowered to try this by watching the HBO series “Girls” this past season.
If I had to draw a conclusion to the question of what has corrupted what, I’d say social media aided the new standard for what sexting can lead to. No one idea is the captain. Some people need the build up of pictures and texts to create a head space for whats about to happen. While others casually take to social media to silently watch and interact with their next lay from a good distance.